Pushing Thirtyy

When Will Everyone Else Grow Up?

Maybe I have high expectations for people, and I know that not everybody is going to progress at the same speed, but I just need to know, when will everyone else grow up?

I feel like there are just certain things that should happen by the time you are 27.  For starters, you should be financially independent (unless of course you are getting your PhD or something).  By financially independent I mean that you  pay your own bills, including student loans, car insurance, utilities, food and all the expenses of living on your own; and if you live at home, you pay rent and buy your own groceries.  It’s just really hard to watch other people who don’t get passed this stage.

We all can’t fit into a cookie cutter mold, but don’t you think that at some point you need to take responsibility for yourself?  Ok, college is not for everyone, and I’m not saying you even need to know what you want to do with the rest of your life at age 27, but at least figure out how to budget, how what you earn fits into your lifestyle, and stick to it.

I think that some people get very caught up and nervous about not knowing what they want to do with their lives at 27 that they freak out and end up doing nothing, which is so unproductive!  You really can’t expect to be making a six-figure salary if you don’t start at the bottom and I know very few 27-year olds that are willing to start at the bottom so late in the game.  And the worst part is watching friends struggle knowing that nothing you say or do is going to make them grow up faster.

So when will everyone else grow up? I guess there’s no magic number. Maybe there’s a magical moment when it dawns on them that they can get to the next stage, and maybe there’s not.  Maybe they feel stuck and don’t know how to move forward. I think we’ve all been there before. The crappy job market is not helping any either. But people have grown up in worse times. We are spoiled compare to past generations.

So I guess I have to be patience with my slow-to-move friends. I’m working on the patience thing. I just hate to see great potential go to waste.